Should Women Carry Condoms?
During a friend’s dinner party the other night a heated battle of the sexes began on the subject of females carrying condoms. Not sure how the conversation started but the sticking point was whether or not a female with a stash of prophylactics was a loose or just being safe.
My homegirl Tasha was at the center of the debate, holding it down for the females. She argued that just because she cares about her own health and doesn’t want to rely solely on a man to bring protection she shouldn’t be labeled a “slut.” In her defense, it is almost 2009 and AIDS, as well as many other STDs, is still a major problem in our community. With that in mind, Tasha makes it a point to keep some condoms handy at the crib just in case something jumps off with a male companion. Although I don’t expect a female to have a bag of Jimmy’s on stand by, I can understand Tasha’s logic and would greatly appreciate her and her stash if I were caught condom-less when something was about to go down.
My boy Mark, however, viewed things completely different. Mark felt that if he was at a girl’s crib for the first time and she had a whole bunch of condoms in her nightstand, he’d look at her suspect. “That means you’re fucking a lot, and I just happened to be the one to get it tonight,” he argued.
That of course, threw Tasha into a fit. She countered, “So, Mark, are you a hoe for carrying condoms?”
“Nah, I’m a guy.”
“What does that have to do with anything?”
“I wear condoms, you don’t. So why should you have them?”
“Because I want to be safe and protect myself.”
“I hear you, but I don’t know, that still sounds a little loose to me.”
“Oh, so I’m loose now.”
“Nah, nah, I’m just saying…”
As this back and forth went on, more folks chimed in. I, of course, had my own thoughts on the subject and as with anything, I think everything depended on the scenario and circumstances. As I stated early, I come from a school of thought where it’s a man’s responsibility to carry/have protection. Just like Mark said, we wear them so we’re expected to have them. Now, does that mean I feel a woman shouldn’t have her own supply? Of course not, it just all depends on the situation.
If a female and I have been intimate already and I happen to be at her house without being strapped, I’d gladly appreciate it if she had a spare condom or two on hand for me. The key word(s), though is one or two. Now if a chick busts out with a Glad bag full of prophylactics in different shapes, sizes, styles, colors, flavors, and brands like she has stock in a rubber company, I’m gonna look at her a little funny. Yeah, she’s protected and offering variety for her partner, but sometimes too much can be, well, too much…
So what would Anslem do in this condom situation? Go for gold, or head for the hills? Find out by reading the rest of the story at NakedWithSocksOn.com.
R.I.P. MJ
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Comments (140)
954_ghettothug
This is a very overlooked topic. YES! women should carry condoms. whether its the female condom or the male fitted condom. Protectionis a must. I tink personally… For the fellas that dont like wearing condoms.. theyshould carry the female condoms as well. You have to take care of yourself.. and each other.
Imasexyred
Of course, women should have condoms because even though it takes a man to apply them, they are being used on well for this topic- her. Therefore, condoms benefit both parties, regardless of who provides them. It provides the same protection for both parties involved. As far as a woman being ‘loose’ because she has condoms is like saying she has car insurance because she always wrecks. Or because she has plenty of food, she loves to eat. Maybe she just loves to be well-prepared ‘just in case.’ And if a man isn’t taking the time out to get to know a woman and sums up her character just because she has her own condoms- WOW!! But make no bits and bones about it- all these fatherless children aren’t “overly” in existence today because a condom broke!
89MissBrandNew97
women should carry condoms…trust me sometimes even when the guy has him he wont use em and there are too many stds and other issues floatin around now a days sooo if the man dont have em or forgot or whatever the excuse is ihave em i have 2 in my pocket book and a few at my house in the bathroom…i mean whats wrong with a woman carrying trojans to protect her self and try to prevent baby?
libra_luv06
Myself,I carry a condom on person in my purse and i keep a stash of like a 3 pack in my headboard of my bed..i’m notta hoe i jus want to be prepared if i’m out with my girls and if them or I meet up with any of our boyfriends we wont be mad.The stash i have in my headboard is for the reason a dude poked a hole n a condom thinkin it was gonna keep me around(which it didnt).I want to make my safety and birth control first priority,not leave it in a man’s hands,like i did before and got a beautiful daughter out da deal…
xaviera011
i think we should carry condoms
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